I was (or I am) a prostitute (or a porn star), where is the problem?

Abigail Pereira Aranha

How many times have we heard a former prostitute a former porn star or a woman who has an erotic essay saying that? Well, folks, I have not made this professional career yet. Also because I only have 15 years old. Prejudice in society against a woman who has a photo half-naked in a calendar, who made a pornographic material, who is a prostitute? Even if this prejudice exists, who don't have this prejudice? At least apparently, among the people who don't see a prostitute or a naked woman as worse or having less dignity than the other women, are not themselves.

And if your mother or sister was a prostitute, or if she posed for a porn magazine or if she made a porn movie? Or, you might ask, if it were my mother or my sister? The idea behind the question is that there is a problem, or something reprehensible, or something derogatory in it. But what is this thing?

Let's assume that it is true that prostitutes are made hostage by criminals and assaulted by customers, that porn actresses are kept in captivity, that women who pose for pornographic magazines are given drugs. For starters, if a woman only has sex with a man if she is threatened, drugged or married, she is a lesbian. But may she be in prostitution or pornography because she likes, or find men with whose she likes to be? But even so, she is always in some degrading situation, as captivity or drug addiction, or she may not be? If so, she can get out of degradation without getting out prostitution or pornography? If not, if the woman can choose the men, if she may have security against aggressive men, if she can be respected, if she can even achieve a good sex for herself, where is the problem?

Oh, and you may have noticed in the last question that I thought about the hipothesis of a woman being respected as a prostitute by a client, or as a porn star or erotic model by male colleagues, by the production or by the men who will see the work. Who thought an absurd is who can not join sex or the heterosexuality of a man with respect to a woman he is not married. Anyone who thinks this is either a man who beyond moron is an unfortunate, or is a neurotic woman, beyond also moron and unfortunate. And these two with sexual problems, both in the idea that they have about sex and in sexual life in quantity and quality.

Ah, a moment, we see former prostitutes, former porn actress, former erotica models, yes. Seldom, often in churches and preaching against prostitution and pornography, saying how their lives there was horrible. So when they are not active in the work of the Lord, married to a man of the church, not giving a little single sign of the past life. And why all mature lady who preaches against prostitution and pornography seems like she would never touch a man in her life if she could?

Even if there is a prejudice in society against prostitutes or women who have erotic or pornographic works, who would be best to prove how stupid is discriminating an excellent candidate to a doctor job just because she made a pornographic movie than an excellent doctor who assumes that she made a pornographic movie? Oh, and does not society have men and women, young and old, single and married? Whose this doctor needs to hide the "past", those who like porn, and her work, or those who hate pornography? Who better to show that a porn star or a woman who posed semi-nude for a calendar can be intelligent and altruistic than an intelligent and altruistic woman who is not ashamed of having been a porn star or having posed semi-nude for a calendar? Who better to show that a prostitute or a woman who has nude photos is not less respectable than your sister or your mother: a prostitute or a woman who has nude photos that is not less respectable than your sister or your mother, or a "former professional" who make preaching of lack of orgasm disguised as helping alleged victims of organized crime?

Knowing that prostitution and pornography are almost the only possibilities for honest poor men to have a reasonable sex or even see a female body before age 25 can help to find some sense of this whole thing. I say honest poor men because bandits poor men still have women who offer themselves for them. The question I would like to bring here is not why, for example, a stripper is shame to the family, but the nymphet who married a man 40 years older clearly for interest is not. The question is why the stripper acts as if she had something to be ashamed and the self-interested nymphet acts as if she had not. Or why a 15 year old girl inflates her chest when she lives with a bum, but an universitarian does not want to be discovered that she posed to an erotic magazine. Or why an actress pretends no one knows she only had a successful career because she is relative or she was girlfriend of someone famous or influential, but she hides the sensual scenes she made in a movie, or she would hide if she had done one. It's one thing a woman can not assume that she is a prostitute, that she is on pornography, that she made erotic or sensuous material where it is illegal. Another thing is she do not assume it as if it were shameful, or worse, as if this was more shameful than what is really shameful.

Prostitution and pornography (though pornography not so much) appear to be the only jobs in which the most qualified people flee and the lowest qualified people enter. If many prostitutes are not pretty or don't have lush bodies, we can even apologize because of Statistics, although all the few women like this who we know between our acquaintances are married with possessive assholes, married with manipulated suckers who think they are great, girlfriends of bums or, let us say, undeclared prostitutes. But it's hard to find a prostitute who is not old, ugly body, drug addict, alcoholic or horrible in the job. And this latter, from what I hear from my male friends and around, it seems standard, attending grudgingly charging the most expensive possible (or the worst possible for the combined price). As a rule both in prostitution and in pornography (where the quality of professionals is less bad), women enter because they have no other option to earn money, or to earn money fast and get out fast. But the preoccupant is that it is not only the female universe who treats offering sex for a common man, if only in scenes just for him to see, as a degradation. The preoccupant is that the universe of women in prostitution and pornography see what makes as degradation, even attending to common men of good character. It seems like a shame in the point of view of women themselves "to fun" honest poor men.